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Do’s Tips 1 – 10
- As a man, always take responsibility for paying for the date. If the girl insists on splitting the bill, observe her insistence and decide accordingly.
- Choose the date location together. It doesn’t have to be an expensive place; a relaxing environment is more important.
- Show good manners by opening and closing car doors for her and pulling out her chair at the restaurant.
- Be confident. Women appreciate a man with self-assurance and control. Your confidence is attractive.
- If you have a particular look in mind for your date, consider gifting her a lovely dress beforehand. Dress well and ensure you have a pleasant body odor.
- During the conversation, make your partner feel at ease. Start with common topics like family, work, friends, and hobbies.
- Keep the date duration reasonable to avoid awkwardness.
- Instead of buying something extravagant, choose a small, thoughtful gift that she will appreciate.
- If things are going well, consider the potential for a future relationship. If not, it might be best to end it here.
- Listen attentively to what your partner is saying, showing genuine interest.
Do’s Tips 11 – 25
- Keep the evening light-hearted and enjoyable, leaving any emotional baggage at home.
- A cheerful demeanor is appealing. Be present and engaged in the moment.
- Ensure you have enough money to cover expenses to avoid any embarrassing situations.
- If you feel like giving your partner a hug, ask first and make it gentle and comforting.
- Dress comfortably so you feel relaxed and confident while with her.
- Choose a relaxing date location rather than a crowded one.
- Save the kiss for the end of the date in a private setting where she feels comfortable.
- Smile often. It makes you look approachable and helps hide any nervousness.
- Maintain good posture and body language. Sit straight and keep your hands on the table.
- A short walk after dinner can be a good opportunity to express your feelings.
- Even if the conversation isn’t riveting, show interest to build understanding and connection.
- Enjoy the date fully. If it isn’t going well, gracefully end it early and consider a different approach next time.
- Maintain eye contact to show you are attentive and interested.
- Address any issues that arise during the date. You may not get another chance.
- Laugh at her jokes genuinely, not forcedly.
Don’t’s Tips 1 – 10
- Don’t make hasty judgments about your partner or your feelings in the first meeting. Take your time.
- If you want to meet again, say so. If not, be honest and straightforward.
- Avoid talking about yourself incessantly. Give her time to share about herself too.
- Turn off or silence your phone to avoid constant interruptions.
- Don’t gulp your drinks or eat noisily. It’s disruptive and unattractive.
- Avoid coming across as desperate or overly eager to find a partner.
- Make your date feel comfortable; don’t bombard her with questions.
- Talking about or attempting sex on the first date is a bad idea.
- Don’t get too personal too soon. Keep the conversation light and respectful.
- Avoid bragging. Let your qualities show naturally.
Don’t’s Tips 11 – 25
- Don’t bring a friend along on your date. It’s inappropriate and awkward.
- Avoid drinking too much alcohol to stay in control of your actions.
- Smoking is a big no-no as it can be off-putting.
- Be fully prepared before the date – clothes ironed, shoes polished, etc.
- Don’t bring your children on the date. Arrange for their care in advance.
- Keep complaints about life and society to yourself. No one wants a negative atmosphere.
- Avoid flirting with others during the date.
- Ensure your date gets home safely.
- Don’t stare at her body. It’s disrespectful and uncomfortable.
- Avoid trying new things or experimenting on the first date.
- Keep talk about exes for another time. Focus on your current date.
- Be yourself, not a movie character. Authenticity is key.
- Avoid taking advice from others that might not suit your situation.
- Don’t ignore your date by staring at others around you.
- Don’t express love too soon. Keep those feelings for when you truly mean it.
Dr. Amanda Stone is a renowned psychotherapist and BDSM educator with over 15 years of experience in the field of human sexuality. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and has dedicated her career to exploring the intersections of mental health, sexuality, and spirituality. Dr. Stone is a passionate advocate for the healing potential of BDSM and regularly conducts workshops and seminars to educate individuals and couples on safe, consensual, and spiritually enriching BDSM practices.