By: Dr. Laura Bennett , a certified Reiki Master and holistic sexuality counselor
Introduction
Before considering divorce as a final solution, partners should explore other options to rebuild their relationship in a calm and composed manner. Divorce should only be considered after all efforts to mend the relationship have been exhausted without success. It’s important to understand that divorce is not an easy process and involves various challenges and requirements that need careful consideration.
Rebuilding the Relationship
Couples should first attempt to mend their relationship with full commitment, seeking help from legal advisors, family, friends, and counselors. This may involve counseling sessions with experts, spending quality time together, and trying to rekindle the relationship without the looming threat of divorce. The goal is to get the marriage back on track and avoid divorce if possible.
However, if divorce becomes unavoidable, it is crucial to handle the legal aspects correctly to prevent complications. This includes dividing marital assets, property, and debts. The complexity of these proceedings can vary depending on the circumstances and the individuals’ attitudes towards settlement.
Impact on Children
When children are involved, additional considerations are necessary. The mental and physical well-being of the children, their personal and social adjustments, and the logistics of their relocation and upbringing need careful thought. Divorce can significantly impact children, and it’s vital to manage these aspects with sensitivity.
Abuse Should Not Be Tolerated
In cases where abuse, whether physical or mental, is present, divorce might be the only viable solution. For victims, providing proper and relevant evidence of abuse can simplify the divorce process. Physical abuse is often easier to prove with tangible evidence, whereas mental abuse requires expert statements and verification.
Proving abuse in a marriage can be challenging and may involve political maneuvering from either side. Therefore, presenting accurate and strong evidence is crucial to clarify the situation and justify the reasons for seeking a divorce. This evidence should highlight the impact of the abuse on the marriage and the damage inflicted on the individual.
Trying Out Counseling
Before proceeding with legal divorce, couples should undergo counseling. Courts typically initiate divorce proceedings only after confirming that all necessary steps, including counseling, have been attempted to save the marriage. The primary aim of counseling is to rekindle and rebuild the relationship, helping couples work through their issues in a mature and composed manner.
Counseling can involve legal advisors, trained psychiatrists, experienced volunteers from support groups, or individuals with high religious and social values. The purpose is to protect the marriage and help the couple rebuild their relationship. These sessions allow individuals to speak openly about their situation and receive the support they need.
Staying Together for the Children
Some couples choose to stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of their children. While this decision may have some advantages, it often leads to a stressful and unhealthy home environment. In such cases, a mutual divorce might be necessary to start anew and create a more peaceful life for everyone involved.
Living in a bad marriage can have severe mental and physical effects on the entire family, including the children. It’s important for couples to recognize when their marriage is beyond saving and consider the long-term impact on their children. In some cases, couples manage to live together in a civil and diplomatic manner until the divorce is finalized.
Self-Reflection and Action
During the divorce process, individuals may exhibit negative behavior due to stress and pressure. It’s important to be mindful of one’s actions to minimize the negative impact on the situation. If negative behavior patterns are noticed, seeking external help, such as therapy or counseling, can be beneficial.
Both parties should be encouraged to work together in a composed manner to end the relationship peacefully. In cases of betrayal, the hurt feelings can lead to a desire for revenge, which only complicates the situation further. Counseling can help individuals address these emotions and find productive ways to handle the situation.
Emotional Healing
Divorce can leave individuals with emotional wounds and a sense of loneliness. It’s essential to seek help from therapists and counselors to recover from the traumatic experience and move on with life. Prolonged emotional wounds are often the basis for divorce, and appropriate efforts must be made to heal these wounds.
In cases of betrayal or abuse, the psychological impact can be long-lasting. It’s important to address these issues with professional help to avoid carrying the trauma into future relationships.
Conclusion
Recovering from the trauma of divorce requires time and effort. Seeking social support, professional counseling, and leaning on religious beliefs can help individuals heal and move on with their lives. The grieving process involves sharing experiences in a controlled environment, which helps clear out negative thoughts and make space for a happier future.
Approach to Grieving
Having a supportive environment is crucial during the grieving process. Assistance from friends and family can be invaluable in helping individuals move forward. Seeking professional help from counselors or therapists can also provide the necessary support to avoid depression and regain stability.
For religious individuals, leaning on their faith can be a source of strength during difficult times. Sharing experiences and opening up about the trauma can help individuals move on and find happiness again.
Dr. Laura Bennett is a certified Reiki Master and holistic sexuality counselor with over 20 years of experience in energy healing and sexual wellness. She holds a Ph.D. in Holistic Health and specializes in integrating Reiki practices with sexual wellness to help individuals and couples deepen their connections, enhance intimacy, and heal from past traumas. Dr. Bennett leads workshops and private sessions that focus on balancing energy, fostering emotional intimacy, and cultivating a harmonious sexual relationship.